Tonight’s livecast topic is pushing limits ethically

Livecast done and dusted for this month. Podcast will be uploaded once I have finished the editing.

The livecast will start at about 10pm tonight however feel free to log into the livechat room to be ready for the show to start. We will post the streaming URL in this chat when the stream starts.

Just a small quick reminder that tonights podcast is on the topic of how to ethically push limits.  If you have any questions etc and can’t make the live stream tonight please feel free to ask them on the forum

Otherwise you can also use our anonymous Q&A page to submit them.


KC003 Pedro rope workshop

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For this podcast we are joined again by Princess P4in. We discussed our recent workshop which cheeky and myself attended and what we learned from Pedro.

Pedro is currently on a world tour so if he is visiting your country I highly recommend trying to get into one of his workshops.

The live chat which accompanied this livecast is over here

If you have any questions or suggestions for a topic for a future livecast please feel free to submit them over here or on our new forums over here

Forniphillia / Human furniture

What is Forniphilia / Human furniture?

Human furniture or Forniphilia is a form of bondage and or sexual objectification in which a persons body is incorporated into items on furniture. Items like trays, foot stools, chairs, tables, lamps or other items of furniture. The term forniphilia was coined by Jeff Gord.

The person used for human furniture may be nude  or semi-nude to add to the erotic and aesthetic appeal. Forniphilia can be an extreme form of bondage, The submissve is usually tightly bound and expected to stay immobile for a prolonged period. Often gags  and sex toys are incorporated. Proper safety measures and checking in with the submissive’s well being is vital, because of the dangers that can arise, forniphilia should only be undertaken by a experienced bondage practitioner.

Fotniphilia doesn’t always mean using bondage. Having your submissive on all fours as a foot stool  or as a seat, standing and holding drinks.


As always S.S.C, P.R.I.C.K, R.A.C.K.

Red Flags

What does red flags mean?

Red flags are warning signs that a potential partner may not be a safe person for you to play with. What is a red flag for one person, may not be a red flag for someone else; to a certain degree what constitutes a red flag can be somewhat personal.

Here is a list of some common red flags.

  1. Demanding straight off that you call him or her by certain titles.
  2. Saying you can’t have a safeword.
  3. Having you stop contact with family and/or friends.
  4. Collaring after a week or less . (This is classed as a velcro collar, A sub wanting a collar more than a bond or a Dom/me wanting to collar someone too quick normally means they are collector).
  5. They don’t care about your mental or emotional wellbeing.
  6. Anyone who says they have no limit or wants someone none.
  7. No aftercare by the dominant after a scene. (This can leave the sub feeling emotional, vulnerable and feel like they have failed).
  8. When a Dom/me says the word NO is not acceptable in any context.
  9. When a sub “tops from the bottom” without discussing it with the Dom/me first.
  10. Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets made if you try contacting them at other times.
  11. Criticises the local BDSM community, refuses to participate especially if they never were part of it.
  12. Consistently breaks promise.
  13. Always finds excuses for not meeting.
  14. Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
  15. Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.
  16. Falls in love you way too fast and swears undying love before even meeting you.
  17. Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.
  18. Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough.
  19. Says they are a “true Dom/me, sub” or says that they are a “true Dom/me, sub”.
  20. Loses control of their emotions in arguments and resorts to yelling, name-calling and blaming you.
  21. Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could be like.
  22. Tries to keep you in the dark about what might happen next in the relationship.
  23. Does not respect your feelings, rights or opinions.
  24. Blames you for your hurt feelings.
  25. Is constantly asking for money from you.
  26. Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm to get you to do what they want.

Trust your instincts, if you feel uncomfortable, pressured, overwhelmed in a negative way or just have a nagging gut feeling that something in not quite right. Then step back, take some times to consider what is causing you to feel this way, consider if this relationship is right for you. (Applies to D-types and s-types).
It’s okay to walk away. Don’t think you have failed or that this is not for you, sometimes things just don’t work out. Sometimes it may take you a little longer to spot a fake. Look after yourself you are important, your thoughts and feelings matter!


As always S.S.C, R.A.C.K, P.R.I.C.K.

Safety and meeting new people

Where is a good place to meet for the first time?

Meeting in public is a good idea for safety.  Most people usually meet  for the first time at a cafe/coffee shop. Other people choose to meet at a Bar.

What is a safety call?

A safety call is when you tell a friend where and when you are meeting someone, what time and when to text/call you to see if you are okay or if you need a reason to leave the meet.
Some people tend to have catch phrases/codes that they use so its not obvious to the person you are meeting that your safety call is giving you a reason to leave.

When should you use a safety call?

Anytime you meet someone new, anytime you play with someone the first few times. Some times  people use safety calls for every “play date” .

What other precautions can you use for safety.

Many people tend to do a bit of research on  their potential play partners by asking other people if they know them, if they have a bad rep or not. once you have met the new person sometimes people ask to talk to previous partners or other current partners.

If able give your safety call any/all details of the person you are meeting.

If you feel pressured into going home with them thats a good time to check in with your safety call.

You always have the right to walk away when you want to with out having to give a reason.

As always S.S.C, R.A.C.K, P.R.I.C.K.