1950’s style and BDSM
When people hear 1950’s you get an immediate picture in your head of a husband coming home and the door open to a lovely wife, dressed in a nice floral dress. Hair and makeup perfect with a beer or a whiskey on hand to immediately serve her husband while he sits on the couch reading the newspaper or watching the news or just watching tv.
Kids are very quiet and clean and playing with a few toys in the corner of the lounge or they are playing outside. It's a very calm serene looking scene. Families eat meals together and talking about their day.
So how do you view the 1950’s when you think about it and how do you feel about it. Any part of it that you find interesting? Do you like the look or perhaps more the feel of the 1950’s?
So besides the mental image what else was involved in the 1950’s style?
Yes, the woman was very well dressed in mostly dresses or skirts. Very feminine looking and hair and makeup were done up every day. A woman took great care with their looks. You wouldn’t come home and find your wife in tracksuit pants. (looking down... yip I am wearing some right now.)
Houses were immaculately clean and roles of husbands and wives were a lot more gender-based. Meaning outside work was done by the Husband while the wife took care of the house and the children.
Men tend to take great pride in providing for the needs of their family and after a hard day of work coming back to the lady of the house and being able to rest.
Woman tend to work really hard in the house and if you delve deeper might even be making most of the decisions inside the home. From the decor, what to serve or any of those nitty-gritty things that at that time period seem to not be of interest to the menfolk. (why do I feel like I need to look behind my shoulder for some kind of Feminist to wack me over the head right now... Oooh the interesting world we live in right now but that is a story for another day)
The woman used some of the “free” time to volunteer or to be part of the churches work. So it was not just staying at home and if you can look past the very gender-based roles you can see that both parties are serving each other but in very different ways. A whole community was based on the same sort of agreement of roles of the two parties involved. Everyone sort of knew where they stand and what their particular role and responsibilities were.
Now back to today’s world. I had a really big look at this particular style before but in particular this week for this article and it was very interesting to see how people view this particular time period. Some absolutely love the feminine look of the era and seem to be going back to it or even just making a small few tweaks and punking it up. Some can't stand the gender-based roles and feel conflicting as they love the look of the 1950’s. And then there is some that really enjoy all of it that it can offer. From the cars to the decor, to the very specific responsibilities of either party, taking some time and effort with your looks for your partner. Or in particular with our very heavy electronic busy lives these days... the family connection around a dinner table and being able to put devices aside and really just connect and communicate.
But the alarming thing I also found is, that in the kink world and the very big growing amount of people involving 1950’s in their various dynamics, few people are willing to openly talk about it. As if somehow it makes you a woman hater or taking womenfolk back decades of years. In that way perhaps the same can be said for all the other dynamics where the woman is at the feet of a man.
But us kinky folk know better right? We are meant to be more open-minded. As for me personally. I believe in free choice and taking some responsibility for your own happiness. If parties that are involved are open-minded, educated on the topic and freely make a choice and consenting adults, who are anyone to come and say that it is wrong or somehow you causing the destruction of the woman for the last decades of years.
Now to get to the kinky bits of it. I mean after all we a kink website right?
So as mentioned you have two definite areas of the 1950’s style.
First is the look of the 1950’s
You don’t really need to be involved in any kink to enjoy the looks of the 1950’s. From the style to the dresses. Or even just involving a few aspects in any other BDSM dynamic you have. Taking some time with your appearance for your partner before a scene, on weekends if you both have more time or just in general. Having the experience and feeling of dressing up to please your partner and in return pleasing yourself. Feeling good about yourself and your partner getting the benefit of this.
The second one is the more feel of the 1950’s.
There is this book that was published in that time era called: “the Good housewife”. It is available online if you have a look. It gave the ladies a manual on how to behave and tips and advice. If you read it and just replace with words referring to the woman or lady to sub/slave or bottom you have a set guide for a type of D/s. Yes even for male submissives this will work perfectly.
So even though there was a very definite gender role division of labour there is nothing stopping anyone from using the feel and look of the 1950’s in any dynamic that you have. Yes even if you have a Domme with a male submissive.
As for having the “wife” staying at home looking after the house and preparing your meals and servicing to the needs of the “husband”. In today's society, it's not always possible to have one income families or partnerships. That should however not stop you from engaging in this is this is the way that feels both natural to you both. Just take a bit to think outside of the box.
Maybe if you come home having fifteen minutes to get out of your workwear into your 1950’s style clothing and slipping into these roles.
Might not be possible to cook a homecooked meal but you can still serve whatever meal you have in the style or perhaps have a family breakfast served in a 1950’s style over a weekend.
Or perhaps after the kids are in bed doing a service of bringing a drink to your partner and this involved in you getting pulled over their lap to get a spanking and then asking if you were a good girl/boy that day andjust releasing the stresses of the day.
As always have fun and SSC, RACK or PRICK.